If you’re in a relationship where everyday is like Valentine’s
Day then you’ve pretty much mastered the art of love.
However, if you’re like most people in a relationship, you
might think that men are from Mars and women are from
Venus. Well, just in case the latter is true, I’ll share a
separate heart-to-heart with each of you in the spirit of
Valentine’s Day.
Earth to Men from Mars:
Men are great at many things: lifting boxes, killing spiders,
loosening jars. Valentine’s day is your chance to really play
up your romantic side, (you know you have one). If you love
someone, there’s nothing more manly than letting her know
it. And if you really want to put hair on your chest: show her
that you love her.
In even the healthiest relationship, you and she will have
different interests. She loves Formula One racing. You love
daisies. This is all a great thing because if you show off a
little of your feminine side, chances are you will certainly
score–points, that is. She asks you–all the time–to tell
her why you fell in love with her, right? Then she actually
expects you to come out with a brilliant answer on the spot.
Goodness, I feel for you–even Shakespeare couldn’t give
you a sonnet in demand. But don’t worry, this Valentine’s
Day, you’re going to come up with some eloquent gesture of
love that will make her want to leave Venus to come live with
you on Mars. You’re probably saying to yourself, How am I
going to do that? Well, allow me to warm you up to some
outside-the-box ideas.
Look through the photos you’ve gathered throughout your
time together. Find some that speak to you. Don’t worry
about what they say just yet. This is the manly,
hunting-and-gathering part of the gesture. Once you’ve
found the photos you like, put them in the album in no
particular order. Now look at each photo and ask yourself:
How does this picture remind me of why I love her? For
example, if you chose a photo of her making a silly face, it’s
probably because you love the way she makes you laugh.
So write the answer on a Post-it and stick the note on the
photo. Do this for all the photos. In no time at all, you will
create a lasting testament to your love for her. If by chance
she’s a tough cookie to crumble, then plant some daisies
(or her favorite flowers) so they spell out the words “I love
you.” This is a romantic gesture that will last an entire
season and return every year–if you have a green thumb. It
will surprise her as the words start to appear, and it will
surprise you if it actually works.
And yes, in case you’re wondering: it’s ok to make her think
you made up your romantic gestures even if you got the
ideas from an article.
Earth to Women from Venus:
Diamonds aren’t always a girl’s best friend. You’re probably
saying to yourself, What are you talking about? Diamonds
bring a twinkle to your eye, when your significant other
cannot. However, diamonds can’t give you backrubs, kill
spiders, or open jars. It is truly rewarding to be with your
significant other when you both click, are on the same page,
on the same level intellectually, and can make each other
laugh. That’s when he’s your best friend and diamonds
don’t compare. Diamonds are said to be forever, but when
both of you are using your minds, hearts, and uniqueness to
have a romantic future together, that’s what really lasts. So
this Valentine’s Day, you’re going to come up with some
cute and sexy performance of love that will make him want
to leave Mars to come live with you in Venus. You probably
already have some outside-the-box ideas of your own, (you
go girl!). However, if you’re stuck for ideas, please allow me
to warm you up to a few of mine.
Get home well before he does if it’s a workday. Gather all
your lingerie and use them to shape hearts trailing from the
front door, into the bedroom and onto the bed. Leave a note
on the bed that says “Pizza is on its way and cold beer is in
the fridge.” Make sure the pizza is delivered before he gets
home because you’ll need to put on some sexy lingerie and
actually deliver the pizza yourself. Time it so you wait
outside the house and leave him to discover the trail of
lingerie and the note when he returns. He’ll be
disappointed not to find you at home, but that’s when you
ring the doorbell with the pizza in hand, sexy lingerie and all.
You get the idea. Have fun, use your imagination and make
this work however you prefer.
Some of you may feel like this is a little too much work.
Don’t worry, you can simplify the idea. Men are much easier
to please than you think and would be just as happy if you
cut to the chase, skip the opening act and jump to the part
where you show up in sexy lingerie (save the pizza and beer
for later). After all, just think about it: Pizza? Beer? You? in
sexy lingerie? Hockey night in Canada will have to get in
line.
Penny Phang is one of Canada’s nominated Top 40
Under 40 business leaders, recognized for her
commitment to provide strategic business
communication and marketing services with inspiring
enthusiasm, creativity, and innovation. She is also well
known as the Producer for Playboy Special Editions for
Western Canada and Founder of Penny Best Jewelry.
In addition, she serves as one of the Board of Directors
for Global Reach Organization, and continues to write
for her monthly inspirational lifestyle column, Moments
of Inspiration with Penny on http://www.pennyphang.com
